about me

i am 33. i live in los angeles, a city i love, with my husband, mike. and i have brain cancer. prior to receiving a terminal diagnosis on april 9, 2016, i worked as a strategic fund-development and communications consultant for nonprofit organizations.

when i was diagnosed with a grade II-III oligodrendoglioma in october 2010, i decided almost immediately to start this blog. it seemed like the perfect vehicle via which to communicate with family and friends — and allow them to communicate back. once i completed my initial course of treatment and resumed my life, i took a break from blogging.

last month, upon learning i have just a few months to live, i began sharing updates with close family and friends via a CaringBridge website. now that my prognosis has been confirmed by a second medical institution, however, i feel ready to share the rest of my journey with all those who have followed me to date — including others who are on cancer journeys of their own — and with the friends, family members and caregivers of those with cancer. i also hope to reach people not in the cancer community who might draw strength, consolation or succor from my story.

and i want to hear your stories, too, so please visit often, leave your own thoughts and comments, and feel free to share this blog with others.

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This will be the final post

At 2:00am on October 2nd, 2016 Naomi Beth Sichler died peacefully at home surrounded by her family.

We were both always floored at the effect this little public notepad could have on others, and have been overwhelmed with the support we received over the years. We always wondered why people were so interested in the way we lived our lives together, when to us, we were just trying to enjoy each other.

I have so many thank you’s to deliver due to the expansive amount of help and love we have received, that I am bound to miss a few, but know that we could not have loved each other and lived so richly had it not been for the help of so many. Naomi always reminded me that people seemed to run towards us, not away, when they found out about her diagnosis. In this way we were lucky, unfortunately, this is not always the case.

First off, thank you to Skirball Hospice for providing some of the finest care imaginable during this time. Your professionalism and compassion instilled confidence and peace. The constant calls and texts from nurses not even on duty, shows how much you all truly care. Your presence during our time of need allowed, and even made possible, a beautiful end to Naomi’s journey with us.

Thank you Compassion & Choices for being such strong advocates for the terminally ill. Although Naomi chose not to take the aid-in-dying medication, the relief it brought her to know it was an option is something all terminally ill patients should be able to feel.

Thank you to our team at UCLA. Despite Naomi being a USC Trojan, she didn’t trust anyone else with her care. Dr. Nghiemphu, Nanette, Tom, and Cheryl, you all made us feel that you cared about us as people, not just patients.

Thank you to everyone who came out of the woodwork to show us support in the form of cards, flowers, clothes and blankets, rides to doctor’s appointments, food deliveries, and apartments to stay in for family members from out of town. This list is larger than the internet, but thank you all.

To my family – Thank you for accepting Naomi as a daughter and sister. She got unfathomable joy from knowing her family had doubled. Thank you for helping us enjoy the small moments in life through cards, books, and many other actions that let us know you were thinking of us. Thank you for instilling my sense of family, compassion, humility, and caring that helped me provide Naomi with strength when it was needed.

Thank you to Naomi’s family. Eleanor, John, and Tim my heart goes out to you. You were the fortunate ones who knew Naomi the longest. Thank you for raising and supporting the most authentic, strong, loving and thoughtful woman I ever met. Eleanor – Thank you from every inch of my soul for putting your life on hold on numerous occasions to help us maneuver our way through this disease. Thank you for your positivity. Thank you for supporting me as well over all these years. The expansiveness of your love knows no bounds. John – Thank you for being such a steady presence at all times. I know Naomi’s calmness in the face of adversity came from you. Tim – Thank you for your unflinching loyalty, friendship, and comfort to not only Naomi but to me. You and Naomi were always looking out for each other and shared a relationship that she treasured like none other. I am truly blessed to have you all in my life. Knowing that Naomi’s blood runs through you brings me much needed solace.

Thank you to our friends. Vast barely describes this list and the amount of thank you’s to include here so I’ll keep things general. Your words and actions have left me astonished, and floored as to how we could be so lucky to have such amazing people in our lives. Thank you all for helping us have a good life worth living. We are forever thankful for your generosity, loyalty, shoulders to cry on, hands to hold, firm hugs, smiles shared, heartbreaks comforted, and celebrations together. I have no doubt we will carry on Naomi’s legacy together.

Lastly, thank you Naomi, for pouring your soul into this blog and into our relationship. Your openness and authenticity shined through in all that you did. Thank you for getting the broom out and helping me sweep up the pieces of my shattered life. Thank you for taking a chance with me and milking every ounce of love out of our all-too-brief time together. Thank you for pushing me to be a better person; the best version of me. Thank you for being fearless and honest. You have made an irreversible impression on my being. Every step I take in this life will be made with you. I am left with a void the size of the universe in my heart, but I thank you for bringing such amazing people into my life to help me grow around that void. Thank you for bringing me way more than net-joy. I love you.

We are all Naomi’s brain,

Mike

Memorial Service Details

Anyone who has been impacted by Naomi’s journey is welcome to attend a memorial service celebrating her life.

Date: October 30, 2016

Time: 12-3pm

Location: Ahmenson Senior Center at Expo Park

Parking: There is limited free parking on S. Park Dr, but many available lot and metered spots on the streets surrounding the center (Bill Robertson Ln and Martin Luther King Jr. Blvd).

Donations: If you would like to send a gift or condolences, here are two organizations that provided us guidance and information that was paramount in our navigation of this disease.

Simms/Mann Center for Integrated Oncology

Cancer Support Community – Benjamin Center

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