about me

i am 33. i live in los angeles, a city i love, with my husband, mike. and i have brain cancer. prior to receiving a terminal diagnosis on april 9, 2016, i worked as a strategic fund-development and communications consultant for nonprofit organizations.

when i was diagnosed with a grade II-III oligodrendoglioma in october 2010, i decided almost immediately to start this blog. it seemed like the perfect vehicle via which to communicate with family and friends — and allow them to communicate back. once i completed my initial course of treatment and resumed my life, i took a break from blogging.

last month, upon learning i have just a few months to live, i began sharing updates with close family and friends via a CaringBridge website. now that my prognosis has been confirmed by a second medical institution, however, i feel ready to share the rest of my journey with all those who have followed me to date — including others who are on cancer journeys of their own — and with the friends, family members and caregivers of those with cancer. i also hope to reach people not in the cancer community who might draw strength, consolation or succor from my story.

and i want to hear your stories, too, so please visit often, leave your own thoughts and comments, and feel free to share this blog with others.

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Grief: the price you pay for love 

My mother-in-law, Pam, texted me yesterday to ask if Mike and I are doing okay. She acknowledged how difficult that question must be to answer right now. My response to her is below and provides context for the touching quote she shared with me in return. 

We are doing okay. Or at least I can say I’m doing okay. Don’t want to speak for Mike. Last week I was pretty emotional but it was good to see my brother over the weekend and I had a good day today. I’m making progress on my project, which feels great. Of course I think it’s healthy to grieve and mourn too. We’re both losing so much. We are just trying to strike the right balance between honoring those emotions and enjoying each other and the time we do have together. 

Grief is not a disorder, a disease, or a sign of weakness.

It is an emotional necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve. 

– Dr. Earl A. Grollman

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